1. Stand Positive and Strong:
Try to appear confident, if you can. Some bullies like to see that they can get to you. Try using an "I" message, like, "I feel…" or "I think…" that strongly expresses how you feel and lets them know that you expect the negative behavior to stop immediately. In some situations, it may be useful to respond to the negative behavior by saying something clever or funny-but only if you feel this will silence the bully rather than make him/her angrier.

2. Avoid the situation:
Don't fight back or respond to bad behavior with more bad behavior. Think of your safety first and don't allow your emotions to cause you to react with anger or violence. Try to ignore hurtful comments and walk away if possible. Avoid places where you might not be safe, such as areas where there are not many people around. Also, you can make sure you're not alone in the bathroom or locker room; sit near the front of the bus; sit with a group of friends at lunch; and go a different way to class or walk with friends.

3. Find your support:
Find others who have had similar experiences and support each other. Find new hobbies that you enjoy and help you feel good about yourself. Hang out with people who accept you and join group activities where you will meet new friends who might stick up for you if you are picked on.

4. Express your feelings:
Keep a diary, journal or notebook to write down how you feel each day. Don't be afraid to talk about your feelings with your friends, family, teachers or counselors. Seeking help is NOT "tattling." Remember that it's okay to feel angry, scared, nervous, embarrassed, frustrated or helpless. When you experience negative feelings, practice saying positive statements.

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